Getting back your girlfriend after a fight or breakup could be a frightening task. Before you go for it you almost certainly have to ask yourself a few questions. Most important, are you wanting her back because you truly love her for who she is or because you would be ashamed to be seen by your pals without your ‘trophy’? Was your relationship a positive one, where common ideals and goals were shared or did the relationship consist generally of fights and disagreements?

If you believe you and your girlfriend have something special and you know way down inside that she is the love of your life, then you owe it to yourself and her to make a fair attempt at getting her back. If this is the case don’t sit and stew and let your intellect play thru ‘what if’ or ‘if only I had done that’ scenarios – this is simply not constructive.

You may be going through all kinds of feelings ; outrage, regret, fear and longing. That is OK, it’s normal. Realize though, all of the back and forth only wears you out. Make a decision to let her go or get her back – that’s it!

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